{"id":112,"date":"2013-07-15T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2013-07-15T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/staging.jbh.is\/bs\/index.php\/2013\/07\/15\/lifid-er-eins-og-hafid-thad-gefur-og-thad-tekur\/"},"modified":"2020-09-23T08:56:06","modified_gmt":"2020-09-23T08:56:06","slug":"lifid-er-eins-og-hafid-thad-gefur-og-thad-tekur","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/jbh.is\/bs\/index.php\/2013\/07\/15\/lifid-er-eins-og-hafid-thad-gefur-og-thad-tekur\/","title":{"rendered":"L\u00cdFI\u00d0 ER EINS OG HAFI\u00d0 \u2013 \u00deA\u00d0 GEFUR OG \u00deA\u00d0 TEKUR"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\n Brynd\u00eds Schram \u00ed j\u00fal\u00ed 2013<\/i><\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n

Hvernig \u00e6tlar\u00f0u a\u00f0 halda upp \u00e1 daginn, Brynd\u00eds?<\/h2>\n

Flamengoh\u00e1t\u00ed\u00f0! JB er b\u00fainn a\u00f0 bj\u00f3\u00f0a m\u00e9r \u00e1 flamengoh\u00e1t\u00ed\u00f0 \u00ed tilefni dagsins. \u00deetta er sko ekkert venjulegt sj\u00f3. Sj\u00e1lfur Carlos Saura er stj\u00f3rnandinn. Hann stj\u00f3rnar \u00f6llu, fr\u00e1 t\u00f3nlist og dansi til h\u00e1rgrei\u00f0slu og lj\u00f3sagaldurs. Vi\u00f0 fengum s\u00e6ti \u00e1 \u00f6\u00f0rum bekk. \u2013 S\u00fdningin fer fram \u00e1 \u00fatileiksvi\u00f0i og stendur fram yfir mi\u00f0n\u00e6tti\u00f0. \u00dea\u00f0 sem meira er, \u00feetta \u00fatileiksvi\u00f0 er \u00ed h\u00e6\u00f0unum h\u00e9r fyrir ofan, \u00ed bl\u00f3magar\u00f0inum undir veggjum Alhambra hallarinnar. S\u00fa h\u00f6ll er einst\u00e6\u00f0ur minnisvar\u00f0i um menningarstig og listsk\u00f6pun M\u00e1ranna, sem r\u00edktu h\u00e9r \u00ed Andal\u00fas\u00edu \u00ed sj\u00f6 hundru\u00f0 \u00e1r. \u00c9g gr\u00e6t af gle\u00f0i. Af tilhl\u00f6kkun.<\/p>\n

Hvernig tilfinning er a\u00f0 eldast?<\/h2>\n

\u00deegar \u00e9g var stelpa, hryllti mig vi\u00f0 \u00feeirri tilhugsun a\u00f0 ver\u00f0a 75 \u00e1ra. \u00dea\u00f0 jafngilti dau\u00f0ad\u00f3mi. N\u00fa er \u00e9g komin \u00e1 \u00feennan sta\u00f0 \u00ed l\u00edfinu, og enn er \u00feetta allt \u00ed lagi \u2013 \u00e9g er spriklandi af fj\u00f6ri, e\u00f0a svo segir JBH, a\u00f0 minnsta kosti. Samt er svol\u00edti\u00f0 merkilegt a\u00f0 ver\u00f0a svona hundgamall. \u00dea\u00f0 ger\u00f0i ekki m\u00f3\u00f0ir m\u00edn, n\u00e9 heldur systir m\u00edn, n\u00e9 heldur d\u00f3ttir m\u00edn \u2013 konurnar \u00ed l\u00edfi m\u00ednu. Af hverju f\u00e6 \u00e9g a\u00f0 lifa og nj\u00f3ta? \u2013 Nei, \u00fea\u00f0 er ekkert erfitt a\u00f0 eldast, \u00e9g tala n\u00fa ekki um, ef ma\u00f0ur er forvitinn og \u00e1hugasamur um l\u00edfi\u00f0 og tilveruna. \u2013 M\u00e9r s\u00fdnist a\u00f0 v\u00edsu \u00fea\u00f0 vera frekar lei\u00f0inlegt a\u00f0 eldast \u00e1 \u00cdslandi. Ma\u00f0ur er settur \u00e1 einhvern b\u00e1s og sagt a\u00f0 l\u00e1ta l\u00edti\u00f0 fara fyrir s\u00e9r. Helst ekki a\u00f0 hafa sko\u00f0anir, \u00fea\u00f0an af s\u00ed\u00f0ur a\u00f0 l\u00e1ta \u00fe\u00e6r \u00ed lj\u00f3si. M\u00e9r finnst \u00feetta \u00f3\u00feolandi. Fullkomin \u00f3vir\u00f0ing vi\u00f0 gildi l\u00edfsreynslunnar og l\u00fdsir l\u00e1gu menningarstigi.<\/p>\n

Hvernig s\u00e9r\u00f0u framt\u00ed\u00f0ina fyrir \u00fe\u00e9r?<\/h2>\n

\u00c9g skal vi\u00f0urkenna, a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 setur a\u00f0 m\u00e9r kv\u00ed\u00f0a, \u00feegar \u00e9g hugsa til framt\u00ed\u00f0arinnar. Ef \u00fe\u00fa \u00e1tt vi\u00f0 okkar sameiginlegu framt\u00ed\u00f0 \u2013 framt\u00ed\u00f0 mannsins \u00e1 j\u00f6r\u00f0inni \u2013 \u00fe\u00e1 r\u00e6\u00f0st h\u00fan af \u00fev\u00ed, hversu lengi enn m\u00f3\u00f0ir j\u00f6r\u00f0 umber \u00e1gengni mannskepnunnar. Vi\u00f0v\u00f6runarlj\u00f3sin blikka v\u00ed\u00f0a \u2013 ey\u00f0ing sk\u00f3ga, au\u00f0lindir \u00e1 \u00ferotum, fyrirsj\u00e1anlegur vatnsskortur v\u00ed\u00f0a um heim. Og \u00e1n vatns er ekkert l\u00edf \u2013 aqua vitae<\/i>. Mengun l\u00e1\u00f0s og lagar, \u00fatr\u00fdming d\u00fdrategunda og loftlagsbreytingar af mannav\u00f6ldum, sem munu v\u00ed\u00f0a raska l\u00edfsafkomu millj\u00f3na manna. Allt eru \u00feetta aflei\u00f0ingar af hugarfari mannsins \u2013 si\u00f0menningu e\u00f0a menningarleysi \u2013 sem \u00fdtir undir h\u00f6mlulausa gr\u00e6\u00f0gi og kann s\u00e9r ekkert h\u00f3f \u00ed umgengni vi\u00f0 n\u00e1tt\u00faruna. \u2013 Fj\u00e1rm\u00e1lakreppan minnir okkur \u00e1, a\u00f0 au\u00f0\u00e6fi jar\u00f0arinnar eru \u00ed f\u00e1rra h\u00f6ndum. \u00d3j\u00f6fnu\u00f0ur fer \u00f6rt vaxandi innan flestra \u00fej\u00f3\u00f0f\u00e9laga. St\u00f3r hluti n\u00e6stu kynsl\u00f3\u00f0ar \u2013 los indignados \u2013 v\u00ed\u00f0a um l\u00f6nd er \u00e1n atvinnu, h\u00fasn\u00e6\u00f0is og vonar. L\u00fd\u00f0r\u00e6\u00f0i\u00f0 er lama\u00f0. Hinir ofurr\u00edku hafa keypt \u00fea\u00f0 \u2013 uppl\u00fdsingakerfin, fj\u00f6lmi\u00f0lana og p\u00f3lit\u00edkina. \u00deeir nj\u00f3sna or\u00f0i\u00f0 um hverja okkar hreyfingu. P\u00f3lit\u00edkusarnir eru \u00e1 fullu a\u00f0 bjarga b\u00f6nkum, en gleyma f\u00f3lkinu, sem berst \u00ed b\u00f6kkum. \u2013 \u00c1standi\u00f0 minnir um margt \u00e1 upplausn og \u00farr\u00e6\u00f0aleysi millistr\u00ed\u00f0s\u00e1ranna \u00e1 \u00f6ldinni sem lei\u00f0. \u00de\u00e1 enda\u00f0i \u00fea\u00f0 \u00ed bl\u00f3\u00f0ugum byltingum, einr\u00e6\u00f0i og a\u00f0 lokum \u00ed heimsstyrj\u00f6ld. Spurningin er, getum vi\u00f0 ekkert l\u00e6rt af reynslunni? Ef \u00fe\u00fa ert a\u00f0 spyrja um \u00cdsland, s\u00e9rstaklega, \u00fe\u00e1 er \u00e9g hr\u00e6dd um, a\u00f0 svari\u00f0 vi\u00f0 \u00feeirri spurningu s\u00e9: nei, \u00fev\u00ed mi\u00f0ur. \u2013 Er \u00e9g of b\u00f6ls\u00fdn? Vonandi. Bjarts\u00fdnin er aflvaki breytinganna. Og mannlegu hugviti eru l\u00edtil takm\u00f6rk sett. Kannski er enn von \u2013 en klukkan tifar.<\/p>\n

Hvernig horfir \u00fe\u00fa til baka?<\/h2>\n

\u00deegar \u00e9g l\u00edt til baka, s\u00e9 \u00e9g allt bjart. \u00deetta hefur veri\u00f0 skemmtilegt fer\u00f0alag, spennandi og vi\u00f0bur\u00f0ar\u00edkt. Vi\u00f0 h\u00f6fum or\u00f0i\u00f0 fyrir \u00feungum h\u00f6ggum \u00ed l\u00edfinu, j\u00e1 \u2013 en ekkert \u00feeirra var jafn\u00feungt og \u00fea\u00f0 s\u00ed\u00f0asta \u2013 d\u00f3tturmissirinn. A\u00f0 missa barni\u00f0 sitt \u00ed bl\u00f3ma l\u00edfs er svo \u00f3endanlega s\u00e1rt \u2013 vi\u00f0 erum svo varnarlaus. Sorgin n\u00edstir inn \u00ed innstu hjartar\u00e6tur. Sn\u00e6fr\u00ed\u00f0ur st\u00f3\u00f0 okkur mj\u00f6g n\u00e6rri. Hennar skar\u00f0 ver\u00f0ur aldrei fyllt.<\/p>\n

Hva\u00f0 gefur \u00fe\u00e9r mesta gle\u00f0i \u00ed l\u00edfinu?<\/h2>\n

F\u00e6\u00f0ing barns \u2013 \u00feetta undur l\u00edfsins \u2013 er svol\u00edti\u00f0 kraftaverk \u00ed hvert skipti. Engin fur\u00f0a, a\u00f0 eftir \u00fea\u00f0 sn\u00fdst l\u00edfi\u00f0 um barni\u00f0 og framt\u00ed\u00f0 \u00feess. Velgengni \u00ed starfi er l\u00edfsfylling \u2013 en ekkert jafnast \u00e1 vi\u00f0 gle\u00f0ina yfir velgengni barnsins. Eitt fallegasta or\u00f0 \u00ed \u00edslenskri tungu l\u00fdsir \u00feessu \u2013 barnal\u00e1n. Ef b\u00f6rnunum vegnar illa, \u00fe\u00e1 veldur \u00fea\u00f0 okkur sorg, sem vi\u00f0 ver\u00f0um a\u00f0 bera og ver\u00f0ur ekki umfl\u00fain. Sama hversu v\u00ed\u00f0a \u00e9g fer, \u00fe\u00e1 er \u00e9g alltaf me\u00f0 hugann hj\u00e1 b\u00f6rnum m\u00ednum og barnab\u00f6rnum. Hvernig skyldi \u00feeim l\u00ed\u00f0a, hva\u00f0 skyldu \u00feau vera a\u00f0 gera? En hver er sinnar g\u00e6fusmi\u00f0ur. S\u00fa kemur t\u00ed\u00f0, a\u00f0 vi\u00f0 ver\u00f0um a\u00f0 sleppa af \u00feeim hendinni\u2026<\/p>\n

Hverju s\u00e9r\u00f0u mest eftir?<\/h2>\n

\u00d3, a\u00f0 \u00e9g v\u00e6ri or\u00f0in aftur ung\u2026 \u00dea\u00f0 er eiginlega bara eitt, sem \u00e9g s\u00e9 eftir \u00ed l\u00edfinu. A\u00f0 \u00e9g skyldi ekki hafa teki\u00f0 af skari\u00f0, \u00feegar t\u00e6kif\u00e6ri\u00f0 gafst, endur fyrir l\u00f6ngu. \u00c9g hef\u00f0i \u00e1tt a\u00f0 pakka danssk\u00f3num, fara \u00far landi og l\u00e6ra flamengo me\u00f0al innf\u00e6ddra. \u00c9g s\u00e9 \u00fea\u00f0 alveg fyrir m\u00e9r, hva\u00f0 \u00e9g hef\u00f0i or\u00f0i\u00f0 st\u00f3rkostleg! A\u00f0 hika er sama og tapa \u2013 \u00e9g hika\u00f0i. \u2013 \u00dea\u00f0 er ekkert tj\u00e1ningarform, sem n\u00e6r betur a\u00f0 l\u00fdsa hamslausum \u00e1str\u00ed\u00f0um, \u00fe\u00f3ttafullum hreyfingum og l\u00edkamlegum \u00feokka en \u00feessi dans hinna f\u00e1t\u00e6ku, sm\u00e1\u00f0u og hrj\u00e1\u00f0u. \u2013 \u00c9g l\u00e9t loksins ver\u00f0a af \u00fev\u00ed \u00ed fyrra a\u00f0 fara \u00e1 n\u00e1mskei\u00f0 h\u00e9r \u00ed n\u00e1granna\u00feorpinu. Kennarinn var s\u00edgaunastelpa, sem haf\u00f0i dansa\u00f0 fr\u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed h\u00fan var barn. Vi\u00f0 \u00e6f\u00f0um fyrir fram st\u00f3ran spegil, og \u00fea\u00f0 var leiki\u00f0 undir \u00e1 g\u00edtar. Mj\u00fakur, \u00feeld\u00f6kkur l\u00edkami st\u00falkunnar i\u00f0a\u00f0i vi\u00f0 minnsta \u00e1sl\u00e1tt g\u00edtarleikarans, sem var l\u00edka s\u00edgauni. \u00c9g var komin \u00ed annan heim, \u00fear sem \u00fer\u00e1in eftir fegur\u00f0inni r\u00edkti ein, lostinn, hamingjan og sorgin. \u00c9g naut \u00feess \u00ed botn a\u00f0 dansa \u2013 finna l\u00edkamann sm\u00e1m saman taka undir me\u00f0 t\u00f3nlistinni. En \u2013 \u00e9g var\u00f0 a\u00f0 s\u00e6tta mig vi\u00f0, a\u00f0 minn t\u00edmi v\u00e6ri kominn \u2013 og farinn. Qu\u00e9 l\u00e1stima<\/i> (hv\u00edl\u00edk synd)!<\/p>\n

Hverjar eru fyrirmyndirnar \u00ed l\u00edfi \u00fe\u00ednu?<\/h2>\n

\u00c9g nefndi konurnar \u00ferj\u00e1r \u00ed l\u00edfi m\u00ednu, m\u00f3\u00f0ur, systur og d\u00f3ttur. Allar miklir pers\u00f3nuleikar, \u00farr\u00e6\u00f0ag\u00f3\u00f0ar og \u00f6\u00f0rum sto\u00f0 og stytta \u00ed l\u00edfinu. Jafnvel Sn\u00e6fr\u00ed\u00f0ur, ung a\u00f0 \u00e1rum, var oft m\u00edn fyrirmynd. \u00c9g leita\u00f0i til hennar um sv\u00f6r vi\u00f0 \u00e1leitnum spurningum. \u2013 En l\u00edklega var \u00fea\u00f0 amma Margr\u00e9t, sem \u00e1tti mestan \u00fe\u00e1tt \u00ed a\u00f0 m\u00f3ta mig til framt\u00ed\u00f0ar. \u00c9g leita\u00f0i til hennar sem barn. Hennar helsta a\u00f0alsmerki var \u00e6\u00f0ruleysi\u00f0. Mig langa\u00f0i a\u00f0 l\u00edkjast henni. H\u00fan hata\u00f0i engan, fyrirgaf allt. H\u00fan brosti ekki oft, h\u00fan amma, enda haf\u00f0i h\u00fan mikla sorg a\u00f0 bera. Synir hennar tveir, ungir menn, fullir atorku og elju, f\u00f3rust \u00ed Halave\u00f0rinu mikla \u00e1ri\u00f0 1925. \u00c9g spur\u00f0i hana einu sinni: Varstu hamingjus\u00f6m, amma? H\u00fan bara leit \u00e1 mig, undrandi. \u00c9g held h\u00fan hafi ekki skili\u00f0 spurninguna. Hugtaki\u00f0 hamingja var ekki til \u00ed hennar or\u00f0ab\u00f3k. L\u00edf hennar snerist um \u00fea\u00f0 a\u00f0 lifa af fr\u00e1 degi til dags, hafa \u201eon\u00ed sig og \u00e1\u201c, fyrir sig og s\u00edna. \u00dea\u00f0 var ekkert sj\u00e1lfgefi\u00f0 \u00e1 hennar lei\u00f0 \u00ed gegnum l\u00edfi\u00f0. H\u00fan var g\u00f6fug kona \u2013 \u00f3gleymanleg \u00feeim, sem henni kynntust.<\/p>\n

Hva\u00f0 er \u00fe\u00e9r mikilv\u00e6gast \u00ed l\u00edfinu?<\/h2>\n

\u00c1stin. \u00dea\u00f0 mikilv\u00e6gasta \u00ed l\u00edfinu er a\u00f0 vera svo l\u00e1ns\u00f6m a\u00f0 finna til, elska, vera elsku\u00f0 og nj\u00f3ta \u00e1sta. \u00dea\u00f0 er \u00fea\u00f0 sem gefur l\u00edfinu gildi umfram allt anna\u00f0. \u00cd \u00feessum skilningi hefur g\u00e6fan veri\u00f0 m\u00e9r gjafmild.
\nSalobrena (Granada), j\u00fal\u00ed, 2013<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u00c9g \u00e6tla\u00f0i ekkert a\u00f0 gera neitt ve\u00f0ur \u00fat af afm\u00e6li m\u00ednu \u00feetta \u00e1r \u2013 frekar en \u00f6ll hin. En \u00feegar DV sendi m\u00e9r p\u00f3st til Salobrenu og ba\u00f0 mig a\u00f0 uppf\u00e6ra CV-i\u00f0 mitt, ger\u00f0i \u00e9g \u00fea\u00f0 og sendi til baka. \u00de\u00e1 spur\u00f0u \u00feeir, hvort \u00e9g mundi velja svara \u00e1tta spurningum \u00ed tilefni dagsins, sem \u00e9g f\u00e9llst \u00e1 a\u00f0 gera. \u00de\u00e6r fylgja h\u00e9r me\u00f0.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1,5],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-112","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","category-greinar_og_vidtol"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/jbh.is\/bs\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/112","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/jbh.is\/bs\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/jbh.is\/bs\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jbh.is\/bs\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jbh.is\/bs\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=112"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/jbh.is\/bs\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/112\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":545,"href":"https:\/\/jbh.is\/bs\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/112\/revisions\/545"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/jbh.is\/bs\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=112"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jbh.is\/bs\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=112"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jbh.is\/bs\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=112"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}