\u00c9g vil leyfa m\u00e9r a\u00f0 lei\u00f0r\u00e9tta nokkrar rangf\u00e6rslur, sem haldi\u00f0 er fram \u00ed \u00e1k\u00e6ruskjali \u00de\u00f3ru T\u00f3masd\u00f3ttur \u00e1 hendur okkur \u00ed N\u00fdju l\u00edfi, (2.tbl.), \u00ed trausti \u00feess, a\u00f0 menn vilji heldur hafa \u00fea\u00f0 sem sannara reynist.<\/p>\n
Eftir a\u00f0 hafa lesi\u00f0 grein \u00de\u00f3ru T\u00f3masd\u00f3ttur og vi\u00f0tal vi\u00f0 Gu\u00f0r\u00fanu Har\u00f0ard\u00f3ttur, er \u00fea\u00f0 a\u00f0allega eitt, sem v\u00edkur ekki \u00far huga m\u00e9r og sv\u00ed\u00f0ur s\u00e1rar en allt anna\u00f0. \u00dear er fullyrt, og \u00e1r\u00e9tta\u00f0 me\u00f0 lj\u00f3smynd af Gu\u00f0r\u00fanu t\u00edu \u00e1ra, a\u00f0 h\u00fan hafi or\u00f0i\u00f0 fyrir kynfer\u00f0islegu \u00e1reiti \u00e1 heimili m\u00ednu strax \u00e1 barnsaldri. \u00deetta er \u00fea\u00f0 lj\u00f3tasta vi\u00f0 fr\u00e1s\u00f6gn \u00de\u00f3ru. Og \u00fea\u00f0 er enn\u00fe\u00e1 lj\u00f3tara vegna \u00feess, a\u00f0 \u00feetta er \u00f3satt \u2013 eftir\u00e1spuni.<\/p>\n
Gu\u00f0r\u00fan, systurd\u00f3ttir m\u00edn, \u00e1tti fr\u00e1 barnsaldri n\u00e1nast sitt anna\u00f0 heimili hj\u00e1 okkur \u00e1 Vesturg\u00f6tunni. \u00deetta var mannmargt heimili, \u00fear sem Kolfinna, yngsta d\u00f3ttir okkar bj\u00f3 l\u00edka me\u00f0 b\u00f6rnin s\u00edn tv\u00f6. \u00c1ri\u00f0 1996 f\u00e9kk Gu\u00f0r\u00fan a\u00f0 fara me\u00f0 okkur \u00f6llum sem barnap\u00eda til Sp\u00e1nar. \u00de\u00e1 \u00feurfti a\u00f0 bera s\u00f3larol\u00edu \u00e1 b\u00f6rnin, sem vi\u00f0 skiptumst \u00e1 um a\u00f0 gera, vi\u00f0 hj\u00f3nin og Kolfinna. (Fyrsta \u00e1reiti). \u00deremur \u00e1rum eftir \u00feetta (1999) vorum vi\u00f0 \u00f6ll gestir \u00e1 heimili d\u00f3ttur okkar \u00ed R\u00f3m. \u00dea\u00f0 var \u00fe\u00e1, sem eiginma\u00f0ur minn ganta\u00f0ist vi\u00f0 Gu\u00f0r\u00fanu um hringinn, sem h\u00fan haf\u00f0i l\u00e1ti\u00f0 setja \u00ed tunguna \u00e1 s\u00e9r. (Anna\u00f0 \u00e1reiti). H\u00fan gleymir \u00fev\u00ed, a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 voru fleiri vi\u00f0staddir \u00ed stofunni. Ertni af \u00feessu tagi ver\u00f0ur seint flokku\u00f0 undir \u00e1reiti. Vi\u00f0 f\u00f3rum \u00ed sj\u00f3inn og l\u00e9tum karlana henda okkur \u00fat \u00ed \u00f6ldurnar. (\u00deri\u00f0ja \u00e1reiti). (Af einhverjum \u00e1st\u00e6\u00f0um er \u00feessu sleppt \u00ed upptalningunni \u00ed N\u00fdju l\u00edfi). Fj\u00f3r\u00f0a \u00e1reiti\u00f0 var \u00feegar sami ma\u00f0ur bau\u00f0 henni upp \u00e1 \u201evisk\u00ed og vindil\u201c, a\u00f0 hennar s\u00f6gn. \u00deetta g\u00e6ti a\u00f0 v\u00edsu hlj\u00f3ma\u00f0 \u00f3hugnanlega, en \u00fea\u00f0 hef\u00f0i m\u00e1tt b\u00e6ta \u00fev\u00ed vi\u00f0, a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 er veri\u00f0 a\u00f0 v\u00edsa til \u00e1ram\u00f3tateitis og allt h\u00fasi\u00f0 undirlagt gestum.<\/p>\n
\u00dev\u00ed m\u00e1 svo b\u00e6ta vi\u00f0, a\u00f0 \u00e9g var sj\u00e1lf vi\u00f0st\u00f6dd hin meintu \u201e\u00e1reiti\u201c(nema hi\u00f0 s\u00ed\u00f0asttalda), auk \u00feess sem tv\u00e6r d\u00e6tur m\u00ednar voru l\u00edka vi\u00f0staddar, \u00f6nnur hvor e\u00f0a b\u00e1\u00f0ar. Engin okkar s\u00e1 neina \u00e1st\u00e6\u00f0u til a\u00f0 lesa eitthva\u00f0 \u00f3ge\u00f0fellt vi\u00f0 framkomu eiginmanns m\u00edns gagnvart Gu\u00f0r\u00fanu. \u00dea\u00f0 hvarfla\u00f0i ekki heldur a\u00f0 Gu\u00f0r\u00fanu sj\u00e1lfri \u2013 fyrr en m\u00f6rgum \u00e1rum seinna. Vi\u00f0 vorum \u00f6ll vinir og \u00fe\u00f3tti gaman a\u00f0 vera saman. \u00dea\u00f0 er \u00f3skiljanleg mannvonska og illgirni a\u00f0 d\u00e6ma mann opinberlega sem barnan\u00ed\u00f0ing \u00fat af s\u00f6gubur\u00f0i eins og \u00feessum.<\/p>\n
\u00dea\u00f0 er mikil mannfyrirlitning, sem birtist \u00ed skrifum konu, sem kennir sig vi\u00f0 feminisma, um \u00feetta m\u00e1l. Og ekki bara mannfyrirlitning \u2013 heldur a\u00f0allega kvenfyrirlitning, sem hittir \u00fe\u00e1 fyrir, sem s\u00edst skyldi. Hva\u00f0 me\u00f0 mig \u00ed \u00f6llu \u00feessu f\u00e1ri? Leyfist ritstj\u00f3ra N\u00fds l\u00edfs a\u00f0 tra\u00f0ka \u00e1 minni pers\u00f3nu, um lei\u00f0 og h\u00fan upphefur sj\u00e1lfa sig? Er \u00e9g ekki kona eins og h\u00fan? \u00c1 \u00e9g ekki minn r\u00e9tt eins og h\u00fan? R\u00e9tt til \u00feess, a\u00f0 f\u00f3lk komi fram vi\u00f0 mig af sanngirni og hei\u00f0arleik \u2013 ekki me\u00f0 a\u00f0dr\u00f3ttunum og uppspuna? Hef \u00e9g ekki minn r\u00e9tt til a\u00f0 lei\u00f0r\u00e9tta rangan \u00e1bur\u00f0, \u00e1\u00f0ur en mei\u00f0andi a\u00f0dr\u00f3ttanir eru birtar? A\u00f0 halda \u00fev\u00ed fram fullum fetum, a\u00f0 \u00e9g hafi b\u00fai\u00f0 \u00ed meira en h\u00e1lfa \u00f6ld me\u00f0 barnan\u00ed\u00f0ing m\u00e9r vi\u00f0 hli\u00f0 (l\u00edklega \u00e1n \u00feess a\u00f0 hafa hugmynd um \u00fea\u00f0 \u2013 e\u00f0a hva\u00f0?) er ekki bara l\u00edtilsvir\u00f0ing vi\u00f0 mig. \u00dea\u00f0 er bull og \u00feva\u00f0ur. Hreint \u00fat sagt \u2013 uppspuni.<\/p>\n
Og \u00fe\u00e1 er komi\u00f0 a\u00f0 hinu \u00e1k\u00e6ruatri\u00f0inu, br\u00e9funum, sem JBH skrifa\u00f0i Gu\u00f0r\u00fanu Har\u00f0ard\u00f3ttur \u00e1 \u00e1rinu 1998 og s\u00ed\u00f0an 2001. \u00dea\u00f0 ger\u00f0i hann, vel a\u00f0 merkja, a\u00f0 hennar bei\u00f0ni (h\u00fan haf\u00f0i veri\u00f0 kosin \u00ed ritnefnd sk\u00f3labla\u00f0s og vildi ver\u00f0a rith\u00f6fundur). Fj\u00f3rum \u00e1rum seinna, e\u00f0a \u00e1ri\u00f0 2005, voru \u00feessi br\u00e9f k\u00e6r\u00f0 til l\u00f6greglu (\u00fear sem k\u00e6runni var v\u00edsa\u00f0 fr\u00e1), og s\u00ed\u00f0an voru \u00feau l\u00f6g\u00f0 fyrir r\u00edkissaks\u00f3knara. \u00c1k\u00e6ruatri\u00f0in sem fylgdu, fyrir utan br\u00e9fin, voru \u00feau s\u00f6mu og rakin voru h\u00e9r a\u00f0 framan. Ranns\u00f3knarspurningin var, hvort einkabr\u00e9f g\u00e6tu talist refsivert ath\u00e6fi a\u00f0 l\u00f6gum, ef innihaldi\u00f0 teldist var\u00f0a \u201es\u00e6r\u00f0a blyg\u00f0unarkennd\u201c. \u00dea\u00f0 t\u00f3k emb\u00e6tti r\u00edkissaks\u00f3knara \u00e1 anna\u00f0 \u00e1r a\u00f0 svara spurningunni me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 v\u00edsa k\u00e6runni fr\u00e1.<\/p>\n
Hvernig dettur \u00feeim \u00fea\u00f0 \u00ed hug, \u00de\u00f3ru T\u00f3masd\u00f3ttur og vi\u00f0m\u00e6landa hennar, a\u00f0 JBH hafi \u201e\u00ed skj\u00f3li valds\u201c, eins og \u00fea\u00f0 er or\u00f0a\u00f0, reynt a\u00f0 tefja framgang m\u00e1lsins? Hvers vegna \u00ed \u00f3sk\u00f6punum hef\u00f0i hann \u00e1tt a\u00f0 gera \u00fea\u00f0? \u00c1 \u00fev\u00ed finnst engin sk\u00fdring \u00ed vi\u00f0talinu, sem ekki er von. \u00deessu var \u00fever\u00f6fugt fari\u00f0. Vi\u00f0 bi\u00f0um, \u00f6ll fj\u00f6lskyldan, \u00ed angist og kv\u00ed\u00f0a \u00ed eitt og h\u00e1lft \u00e1r eftir \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 f\u00e1 endanlega ni\u00f0urst\u00f6\u00f0u fr\u00e1 r\u00edkissaks\u00f3knara. Var ma\u00f0urinn sekur e\u00f0a saklaus af \u00e1k\u00e6runni? JBH rak \u00edtreka\u00f0 eftir afgrei\u00f0slu m\u00e1lsins og gekk eftir sv\u00f6rum, eins og sta\u00f0fest er \u00ed g\u00f6gnum m\u00e1lsins, sem \u00de\u00f3ra haf\u00f0i sj\u00e1lf undir h\u00f6ndum. Loks \u00feoldi JBH ekki vi\u00f0 a\u00f0 hafa \u00feetta hangandi yfir h\u00f6f\u00f0i s\u00e9r lengur og \u00fatvega\u00f0i sj\u00e1lfur \u00feau g\u00f6gn (fr\u00e1 BNA og Venezuela), sem sagt var a\u00f0 \u00feyrfti til a\u00f0 lj\u00faka m\u00e1linu. \u00dea\u00f0 t\u00f3k tvo s\u00f3larhringa a\u00f0 f\u00e1 g\u00f6gnin send. \u2013 Eftir \u00e1 a\u00f0 hyggja hef\u00f0i m\u00e1tt n\u00e1lgast hvort tveggja \u00e1 netinu \u00e1 \u00f6rskotsstund. Hvers vegna var m\u00e1li\u00f0 dregi\u00f0 \u00e1 langinn von \u00far viti? \u00dev\u00ed geta \u00feeir einir svara\u00f0, sem st\u00fdr\u00f0u vi\u00f0komandi r\u00e1\u00f0uneytum 2005-2007.<\/p>\n
\u00dea\u00f0 eru undarleg \u00f6fugm\u00e6li a\u00f0 bera sakborningnum \u00e1 br\u00fdn valdn\u00ed\u00f0slu af \u00feessu tilefni. A\u00f0 sj\u00e1lfs\u00f6g\u00f0u var honum \u00ed mun a\u00f0 f\u00e1 botn \u00ed m\u00e1li\u00f0 sem fyrst. JBH haf\u00f0i ekkert h\u00fasb\u00f3ndavald \u00ed \u00feeim r\u00e1\u00f0uneytum, sem m\u00e1linu var v\u00edsa\u00f0 til. Bj\u00f6rn Bjarnason r\u00edkti yfir d\u00f3msm\u00e1lar\u00e1\u00f0uneytinu, en \u00feau Geir Haarde og Valger\u00f0ur Sverrisd\u00f3ttir gegndu emb\u00e6tti utanr\u00edkisr\u00e1\u00f0herra. S\u00e1 sem heldur, a\u00f0 \u00feessir valdhafar hafi haft s\u00e9rstakan \u00e1huga \u00e1 a\u00f0 halda verndarhendi yfir mannor\u00f0i JBH, \u00feekkja l\u00edtt til veruleika \u00edslenskra stj\u00f3rnm\u00e1la. En \u00feeir g\u00e6tu hafa freistast til a\u00f0 draga ni\u00f0urst\u00f6\u00f0una \u00e1 langinn \u2013 a.m.k. fram yfir frambo\u00f0sfresti fyrir kosningar 2007. Alla vega t\u00f3kst \u00feeim \u00fea\u00f0 fyrirhafnarl\u00edti\u00f0. Ef ritstj\u00f3ri N\u00fds l\u00edfs hef\u00f0i virt andm\u00e6lar\u00e9tt sakbornings vi\u00f0 undirb\u00faning \u00e1k\u00e6runnar \u00ed N\u00fdju l\u00edfi, hef\u00f0i h\u00fan komist hj\u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 ver\u00f0a uppv\u00eds a\u00f0 svona spuna.<\/p>\n
A\u00f0 lokum var \u00fea\u00f0 br\u00e9fi\u00f0, sem fylgdi b\u00f3k Vargas Llosa, sem ranns\u00f3kn saks\u00f3knara beindist a\u00f0. \u00dea\u00f0 er \u00feetta br\u00e9f, sem m\u00e1li\u00f0 sn\u00fdst raunverulega um. \u00cd \u00fev\u00ed birtast hin v\u00edtaver\u00f0u afgl\u00f6p JBH, burts\u00e9\u00f0 fr\u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed, hvort br\u00e9fasending geti var\u00f0a\u00f0 vi\u00f0 l\u00f6g e\u00f0a ekki. Hva\u00f0 gerir ma\u00f0ur, sem hefur gert sig beran a\u00f0 sl\u00edkum d\u00f3mgreindarbresti? Ef hann er \u00e6rlegur ma\u00f0ur, \u00fe\u00e1 vi\u00f0urkennir hann brot sitt og \u00fer\u00e6tir ekki fyrir \u00fea\u00f0. Hann skammast s\u00edn og i\u00f0rast ger\u00f0a sinna. Hann bi\u00f0st fyrirgefningar. Hann b\u00fd\u00f0st til a\u00f0 gera allt, sem \u00ed hans valdi stendur, til a\u00f0 b\u00e6ta fyrir brot sitt, svo a\u00f0 unnt s\u00e9 a\u00f0 n\u00e1 s\u00e1ttum. Allt \u00feetta ger\u00f0i JBH \u2013 en hefur komi\u00f0 a\u00f0 loku\u00f0um dyrum \u00ed meira en \u00e1ratug. Hva\u00f0 getur hinn brotlegi gert frekar til a\u00f0 b\u00e6ta fyrir gl\u00f6p s\u00edn? Hva\u00f0 er n\u00e6gileg refsing? \u00c9g leyfi m\u00e9r a\u00f0 vona, a\u00f0 Gu\u00f0r\u00fan Har\u00f0ard\u00f3ttir og fj\u00f6lskylda hennar \u00feurfi ekki \u00e1 fyrirgefningu annarra a\u00f0 halda \u00e1 \u00f3komnum d\u00f6gum \u2013 og alla vega, a\u00f0 \u00feau komi \u00fe\u00e1 ekki a\u00f0 loku\u00f0um dyrum.<\/p>\n
Svo skora \u00e9g \u00e1 hvern \u00feann mann, sem telur \u00fea\u00f0 s\u00edna st\u00e6rstu og alvarlegustu yfirsj\u00f3n \u00ed l\u00edfinu a\u00f0 hafa skrifa\u00f0 br\u00e9f til ungrar st\u00falku, sem hef\u00f0i betur veri\u00f0 \u00f3skrifa\u00f0, a\u00f0 gefa or\u00f0um m\u00ednum gaum. Og l\u00edti n\u00fa hver \u00ed sinn eigin barm, eiginmenn, br\u00e6\u00f0ur, fe\u00f0ur og synir: S\u00e1 y\u00f0ar sem syndlaus er, kasti fyrsta steininum.<\/p>\n
Til eru \u00feeir, sem l\u00fdsa \u00e1n\u00e6gju sinni me\u00f0, a\u00f0 \u201esannleikurinn\u201c \u00ed \u00feessu m\u00e1li skuli loksins birtur almenningi, laus undan fargi \u00fe\u00f6ggunar. Hva\u00f0a \u00fe\u00f6ggun er veri\u00f0 a\u00f0 tala um, me\u00f0 leyfi? Hva\u00f0an kemur t.d. b\u00e6jarstj\u00f3ranum \u00e1 Dalv\u00edk \u2013 af \u00f6llum konum \u2013 s\u00fa viska, a\u00f0 vi\u00f0br\u00f6g\u00f0 vi\u00f0 \u00feessu m\u00e1li hafi veri\u00f0 \u00fe\u00f6ggun? H\u00e9r r\u00edkti engin afneitun, engin yfirhylming. Br\u00e9funum var komi\u00f0 \u00e1 framf\u00e6ri vi\u00f0 a\u00f0ila innan fj\u00f6lskyldunnar, sem leita\u00f0 var til me\u00f0 bei\u00f0ni um millig\u00f6ngu um s\u00e1ttaumleitanir. Af einhverjum \u00e1st\u00e6\u00f0um voru br\u00e9fin fj\u00f6lf\u00f6ldu\u00f0 og \u00feeim dreift me\u00f0al \u00e6ttingja, vina, kunningja \u2013 og \u00f3vina. \u00dea\u00f0 r\u00edkti sem s\u00e9 engin \u00fe\u00f6ggun, nema kannski gagnvart sj\u00e1lfum okkur. Vi\u00f0 ur\u00f0um v\u00f6r vi\u00f0 breytt vi\u00f0m\u00f3t sumra og st\u00f6ku \u00e1sakandi augnar\u00e1\u00f0 \u00e1 stundum. Umtali\u00f0 \u00e1 bak var\u00f0 sm\u00e1m saman \u00f3v\u00e6gnara. Fyrirgefningin fjarl\u00e6g\u00f0ist \u00e6 meir. Flestir \u00fevo\u00f0u hendur s\u00ednar.<\/p>\n
B\u00e6jarstj\u00f3rinn \u00e1 Dalv\u00edk hefur l\u00fdst \u00e1n\u00e6gju sinni me\u00f0, a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00f6ggun m\u00e1lsins s\u00e9 afl\u00e9tt. H\u00fan vir\u00f0ist l\u00edta svo \u00e1, a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e1 fyrst s\u00e9 \u00fe\u00f6ggun afl\u00e9tt, \u00feegar sagan er flennt \u00fat \u00e1 s\u00ed\u00f0um bla\u00f0anna, \u00fe\u00f3tt h\u00fan s\u00e9 \u00fear s\u00f6g\u00f0 einhli\u00f0a \u00ed \u00fatg\u00e1fu \u00e1k\u00e6renda. Tr\u00fair h\u00fan \u00fev\u00ed virkilega, a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 s\u00e9 af hinu g\u00f3\u00f0a? Er \u00fea\u00f0 s\u00fa samf\u00e9lagslega nau\u00f0syn og andlega heilsub\u00f3t, sem \u00e1k\u00e6rendur \u00ed \u00feessu m\u00e1li l\u00fdsa eftir? Tr\u00faa menn \u00fev\u00ed, a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 s\u00e9 r\u00e9tta lei\u00f0in til a\u00f0 stu\u00f0la a\u00f0 s\u00e1ttum \u00ed vi\u00f0kv\u00e6mum fj\u00f6lskyldudeilum? Er \u00fea\u00f0 \u00feetta, sem vi\u00f0 viljum, fr\u00fa b\u00e6jarstj\u00f3ri?<\/p>\n
\u00c1 einum sta\u00f0 \u00ed vi\u00f0tali \u00de\u00f3ru T\u00f3masd\u00f3ttur vi\u00f0 Gu\u00f0r\u00fanu Har\u00f0ard\u00f3ttur \u00ed N\u00fdju l\u00edfi vitnar Gu\u00f0r\u00fan um \u00fea\u00f0, a\u00f0 d\u00f3ttir m\u00edn hafi \u201csta\u00f0i\u00f0 me\u00f0 s\u00e9r eins og klettur\u201c. \u00c9g vi\u00f0urkenni, a\u00f0 \u00feegar \u00e9g las \u00feessi tilvitnu\u00f0u or\u00f0, f\u00f3r um mig \u00edskaldur hrollur. M\u00e9r rann kalt vatn milli skinns og h\u00f6runds. N\u00fa fannst m\u00e9r \u00e9g allt \u00ed einu skilja samhengi hlutanna.<\/p>\n
\u00deetta sk\u00fdrir reyndar margt, sem ella leynist undir yfirbor\u00f0inu. Til d\u00e6mis, hvers vegna sakleysisleg atvik fr\u00e1 bernsku\u00e1rum, sem engum datt \u00fe\u00e1 \u00ed hug a\u00f0 kenna vi\u00f0 kynfer\u00f0islega \u00e1reitni, ur\u00f0u m\u00f6rgum \u00e1rum seinna a\u00f0 meintu gl\u00e6psamlegu ath\u00e6fi? E\u00f0a hvers vegna \u00f6ll s\u00e1ttabo\u00f0 hafa veri\u00f0 hunsu\u00f0 \u00f6ll \u00feessi \u00e1r? E\u00f0a hvers vegna fj\u00f6lskylda Gu\u00f0r\u00fanar \u00e1kva\u00f0, seint og um s\u00ed\u00f0ir, m\u00f6rgum \u00e1rum eftir a\u00f0 r\u00e9ttarkerfi\u00f0 v\u00edsa\u00f0i m\u00e1linu fr\u00e1, a\u00f0 leita \u201er\u00e9ttl\u00e6tisins\u201c var\u00f0andi svo vi\u00f0kv\u00e6mt fj\u00f6lskyldum\u00e1l \u00ed fj\u00f6lmi\u00f0lum? Og \u00fe\u00e1 fer ma\u00f0ur loks a\u00f0 skilja, hvers vegna allar \u00feessar s\u00f6gusagnir, sem hafa veri\u00f0 \u00e1 kreiki manna \u00ed milli, hafa ali\u00f0 \u00e1 \u00f3vild innan fj\u00f6lskyldunnar.<\/p>\n
\u00dea\u00f0 m\u00e1 r\u00e1\u00f0a af grein \u00de\u00f3ru T\u00f3masd\u00f3ttur \u00ed N.l., a\u00f0 h\u00fan haf\u00f0i undir h\u00f6ndum \u00fatskrift af yfirheyrslum vegna ranns\u00f3knar m\u00e1lsins \u00e1 vegum r\u00edkissaks\u00f3knara. \u00dear er fjalla\u00f0 \u00ed fullum tr\u00fana\u00f0i um \u00feau vandam\u00e1l, sem fj\u00f6lskylda okkar hefur \u00e1tt vi\u00f0 a\u00f0 str\u00ed\u00f0a, enda \u00fat fr\u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed gengi\u00f0, a\u00f0 s\u00e1 tr\u00fana\u00f0ur ver\u00f0i virtur og fj\u00f6lskylduharmleikurinn ekki borinn \u00e1 torg \u00ed fj\u00f6lmi\u00f0lum. \u00de\u00f3ra T\u00f3masd\u00f3ttir getur \u00fev\u00ed ekki l\u00e1ti\u00f0, eins og henni hafi\u00f0 veri\u00f0 \u00f3kunnugt um \u00feetta b\u00f6l, sem \u00e1rum saman hefur varpa\u00f0 dimmum skugga yfir l\u00edf okkar fj\u00f6lskyldu. En h\u00fan kaus a\u00f0 l\u00e1ta \u00fea\u00f0 ekki aftra s\u00e9r fr\u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 flagga m\u00e1linu \u00ed fj\u00f6lmi\u00f0lum, \u00e1n \u00feess a\u00f0 segja s\u00f6guna alla, nema a\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed leyti sem henni henta\u00f0i.<\/p>\n
Af \u00feessu tilefni get \u00e9g ekki or\u00f0a bundist a\u00f0 segja \u00fea\u00f0, sem m\u00e9r b\u00fdr \u00ed brj\u00f3sti, hreint \u00fat: \u00dea\u00f0 er lj\u00f3tt a\u00f0 f\u00e6ra s\u00e9r \u00ed nyt fj\u00f6lskylduharmleik annarra \u00ed \u00fev\u00ed skyni a\u00f0 koma h\u00f6ggi \u00e1 einhvern, sem manni er \u00ed n\u00f6p vi\u00f0, af hva\u00f0a \u00e1st\u00e6\u00f0um, sem \u00fea\u00f0 kann a\u00f0 vera. \u00dea\u00f0 er reyndar meira en lj\u00f3tt. \u00dea\u00f0 er mannvonska.<\/b><\/p>\n
Og eitt \u00e6tla \u00e9g a\u00f0 l\u00e1ta ykkur vita, sem a\u00f0 \u00feessu standi\u00f0, og hafi\u00f0 \u00feegar valdi\u00f0 fj\u00f6lskyldu minni, \u00fear me\u00f0 tali\u00f0 barnab\u00f6rnum, s\u00e1rum en \u00fe\u00f6gulum harmi. \u00c9g \u00e6tla ekki a\u00f0 l\u00e1ta ykkur l\u00ed\u00f0ast a\u00f0 halda \u00feessu \u00e1fram. \u00c9g sit ekki lengur \u00fe\u00f6gul undir \u00feeim \u00f3s\u00f6nnu, \u00f3ge\u00f0felldu og hatursfullu a\u00f0dr\u00f3ttunum, sem veri\u00f0 er a\u00f0 brei\u00f0a \u00fat \u00ed skj\u00f3li myrkurs. \u00c9g er b\u00fain a\u00f0 f\u00e1 n\u00f3g \u2013 \u00feess vegna skrifa \u00e9g \u00feessi or\u00f0.<\/p>\n
Um J\u00f3n Baldvin, sem er skotsp\u00f3nn \u00feessa r\u00f3gbur\u00f0ar, \u00fe\u00f3tt hann bitni \u00e1 okkur \u00f6llum, \u00e6tla \u00e9g a\u00f0 segja eins og Berg\u00fe\u00f3ra for\u00f0um, a\u00f0 ung var \u00e9g gefin Nj\u00e1li. \u00c9g \u00feekki \u00feennan mann jafnvel betur en sj\u00e1lfa mig og veit hvern mann hann hefur a\u00f0 geyma. Og allir sem \u00feekkja hann, vita, a\u00f0 hann er \u00f3venju hreinskiptinn, \u00e6rlegur og sannur \u00ed samskiptum vi\u00f0 anna\u00f0 f\u00f3lk. \u00cd honum er ekki til fals n\u00e9 f\u00f3lska. \u00deess vegna er \u00feetta svo s\u00e1rt. Og \u00feetta vita hinar illu tungur innst inni l\u00edka. Og \u00fea\u00f0 er kannski s\u00e1rast.<\/p>\n
(\u00deeim sem vilja kynna s\u00e9r frekar g\u00f6gn m\u00e1lsins, er bent \u00e1 vefsl\u00f3\u00f0ina: jbh.is<\/a>: A\u00d0 GERA HREINT FYRIR S\u00cdNUM DYRUM<\/a>.)<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Fj\u00f6lskyldusaga eftir Brynd\u00edsi Schram.<\/b>
\nN\u00fa er n\u00f3g komi\u00f0, gott f\u00f3lk. N\u00f3g af r\u00f3gi, a\u00f0dr\u00f3ttunum, haturskrifum, illsku og l\u00edtilmennsku. \u00c9g er kona \u2013 eiginkona, m\u00f3\u00f0ir, amma, systir og fr\u00e6nka. \u00c9g er meira a\u00f0 segja feministi, a\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed er \u00e9g best veit. \u00c9g hl\u00fdt \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 eiga r\u00e9tt \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 bera h\u00f6nd fyrir h\u00f6fu\u00f0 m\u00e9r og fj\u00f6lskyldu minni, \u00feegar a\u00f0 henni er veist me\u00f0 \u00f3s\u00f6nnum \u00e1bur\u00f0i. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1,9],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1309","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-allar_greinar","category-greinar_og_vidtol"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/jbh.is\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1309","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/jbh.is\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/jbh.is\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jbh.is\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jbh.is\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1309"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/jbh.is\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1309\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2740,"href":"https:\/\/jbh.is\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1309\/revisions\/2740"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/jbh.is\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1309"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jbh.is\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1309"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jbh.is\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1309"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}