{"id":3195,"date":"2022-10-23T08:01:37","date_gmt":"2022-10-23T08:01:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/jbh.is\/?p=3195"},"modified":"2022-10-23T08:30:23","modified_gmt":"2022-10-23T08:30:23","slug":"soguburdur-i","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/jbh.is\/?p=3195","title":{"rendered":"S\u00d6GUBUR\u00d0UR I"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\u00cd bla\u00f0avi\u00f0tali fyrir m\u00f6rgum \u00e1rum kva\u00f0st elsta d\u00f3ttir okkar Brynd\u00edsar, Ald\u00eds, ekki \u00feekkja \u00fe\u00e1 mynd, sem fj\u00f6lmi\u00f0lar hef\u00f0u dregi\u00f0 upp af f\u00f6\u00f0ur s\u00ednum og spur\u00f0i: M\u00e1 hann \u00fe\u00e1 hvergi nj\u00f3ta sannm\u00e6lis?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00deetta var \u00e1ri\u00f0 1995, \u00feegar Ald\u00eds var 36 \u00e1ra g\u00f6mul. Sj\u00f6 \u00e1rum seinna haf\u00f0i gagnkv\u00e6m \u00e1st\u00fa\u00f0 og vi\u00f0ring sn\u00faist upp \u00ed hatur og hefndarhug. Hvers vegna? Svari\u00f0 vi\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed er \u00feetta:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Samkv\u00e6mt \u00fe\u00e1gildandi l\u00f6gum var \u00fea\u00f0 mitt hlutskipti a\u00f0 veita \u00edtreka\u00f0 sam\u00feykki f.h. a\u00f0standenda vi\u00f0 bei\u00f0ni ge\u00f0l\u00e6kna um nau\u00f0ungarvistun \u00e1 ge\u00f0deild \u2013 \u00ed einu tilviki um sj\u00e1lfr\u00e6\u00f0issviptingu \u2013 til \u00feess a\u00f0 d\u00f3ttir okkar fengi noti\u00f0 br\u00e1\u00f0nau\u00f0synlegrar l\u00e6knishj\u00e1lpar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

\u00deetta er grafalvarlegt m\u00e1l og hefur haft skelfilegar aflei\u00f0ingar. \u00dea\u00f0 er \u00feetta sem hefur umhverft \u00e1st \u00ed hatur \u2013 umhyggju \u00ed hefndarhug. \u00dea\u00f0 er s\u00edst ofm\u00e6lt a\u00f0 segja a\u00f0 \u00feetta s\u00e9 okkar fj\u00f6lskylduharmleikur<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sta\u00f0reyndirnar eru \u00feessar: \u00c1 s.l. 20 \u00e1rum hefur d\u00f3ttir okkar haft frumkv\u00e6\u00f0i a\u00f0 \u2013 e\u00f0a sta\u00f0i\u00f0 a\u00f0 baki \u2013 k\u00e6rum \u00e1 hendur m\u00e9r fyrir kynfer\u00f0islega \u00e1reitni vi\u00f0 n\u00e1nast allt kvenkyn \u00ed okkar fj\u00f6lskyldu. Fyrst \u00e1ri\u00f0 2002, svo \u00e1rin 2005 \u2013 2006, \u00fev\u00ed n\u00e6st 2013 og 2014. Jafnoft hefur \u00feessum k\u00e6rum veri\u00f0 v\u00edsa\u00f0 fr\u00e1 \u00ed r\u00e9ttarkerfinu, \u00fear sem ekki fundust sannanir fyrir refsiver\u00f0ri h\u00e1ttsemi. \u00c1 \u00feessu t\u00edmabili hefur Ald\u00eds safna\u00f0 li\u00f0i til a\u00f0 leita hefnda. \u00deegar MeToo \u2013 hreyfingin f\u00f3r a\u00f0 l\u00e1ta a\u00f0 s\u00e9r kve\u00f0a, 2018 -2019, t\u00f3k h\u00f3purinn \u00ed kringum Ald\u00edsi v\u00f6rumerki MeToo – hreyfingarinnar<\/strong> traustataki.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00deetta var sami h\u00f3purinn <\/strong>(en n\u00fa undir nafni og a\u00f0 vi\u00f0b\u00e6ttu hinu alr\u00e6mda rassstrokum\u00e1li) og s\u00f6mu s\u00f6gurnar<\/strong> og Ald\u00eds haf\u00f0i dregi\u00f0 saman og ritst\u00fdrt \u00e1 \u00e1runum 2013 og 2014. S\u00f6mu m\u00e1lin<\/strong>, sem l\u00f6gregla og saks\u00f3knari h\u00f6f\u00f0u \u00fe\u00e1 \u00feegar v\u00edsa\u00f0 fr\u00e1.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

En undir gunnf\u00e1na MeToo-hreyfingarinnar f\u00e9kk s\u00f6gubur\u00f0urinn byr undir b\u00e1\u00f0a v\u00e6ngi \u00ed fj\u00f6lmi\u00f0lum. Stundin byrja\u00f0i \u00feessa fj\u00f6lmi\u00f0laherfer\u00f0 11.jan. 2019. H\u00e1punkti n\u00e1\u00f0i h\u00fan \u00ed \u00fatvarpsvi\u00f0tali R\u00e1sar 2 \u00feeirra f\u00e9laga Sigmars og Seljan 17.jan. 2019. \u00dear var \u00fev\u00ed \u00fatvarpa\u00f0 frammi fyrir al\u00fej\u00f3\u00f0, a\u00f0 \u00e9g hef\u00f0i gert mig sekan um a\u00f0 misnota d\u00e6tur m\u00ednar \u00ferj\u00e1r kynfer\u00f0islega \u00ed \u00e6sku og stunda\u00f0 sifjaspell me\u00f0 elstu d\u00f3ttur minni, \u00feegar h\u00fan var vistu\u00f0 \u00e1 ge\u00f0deild.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00dear me\u00f0 var okkur \u00f6llum loki\u00f0. Vi\u00f0 bu\u00f0um d\u00f3ttur okkar s\u00e1ttargj\u00f6r\u00f0, ef h\u00fan dr\u00e6gi \u00feessar upplognu sakargiftir tilbaka og b\u00e6\u00f0ist afs\u00f6kunar. \u00deegar \u00fea\u00f0 s\u00e1ttarbo\u00f0 var hunsa\u00f0 var okkur nau\u00f0ugur einn kostur a\u00f0 h\u00f6f\u00f0a mei\u00f0yr\u00f0am\u00e1l \u00e1 hendur RUV og d\u00f3ttur okkar sem heimildamanni.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mei\u00f0yr\u00f0am\u00e1l og s\u00fdknud\u00f3mar<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

D\u00f3mur \u00ed \u00feessu mei\u00f0yr\u00f0am\u00e1li (E3197\/2019) var kve\u00f0inn upp \u00ed H\u00e9ra\u00f0sd\u00f3mi 12.mars, 2021. Ni\u00f0ursta\u00f0an, a\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed er var\u00f0ar \u00feau m\u00e1l sem h\u00e9r eru til umr\u00e6\u00f0u, var \u00f3tv\u00edr\u00e6\u00f0. \u00c1sakanir Ald\u00edsar um misnotkun d\u00e6tra minna voru d\u00e6mdar \u201cdau\u00f0ar og \u00f3merkar\u201d. <\/strong>\u00cd r\u00f6kstu\u00f0ningi d\u00f3msins var sk\u00fdrt kve\u00f0i\u00f0 \u00e1 um \u00fea\u00f0, a\u00f0 \u00e1s\u00f6kun um sifjaspell <\/strong>v\u00e6ri tilh\u00e6fulaus (sj\u00e1 BLS. 50-51 \u00ed d\u00f3msor\u00f0um). Fr\u00e9ttamennirnir tveir voru hins vegar s\u00fdkna\u00f0ir, \u00fer\u00e1tt fyrir a\u00f0 hafa \u00fatvarpa\u00f0 \u00f3s\u00f6nnum sakargiftum um refsiver\u00f0a h\u00e1ttsemi, \u00fear sem \u00feeir eru ekki taldir bera \u00e1byrg\u00f0 \u00e1 or\u00f0um heimildamanns, skv. d\u00f3maford\u00e6mum. \u00deeir mega m.\u00f6.o. lj\u00faga einsog logi\u00f0 er \u00ed \u00fe\u00e1.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Og hinn 8.n\u00f3v. 2021 s\u00fdkna\u00f0i H\u00e9ra\u00f0sd\u00f3mur<\/strong> mig af \u00e1s\u00f6kunum um a\u00f0 hafa \u201cstroki\u00f0 rass utankl\u00e6\u00f0a\u201d \u00ed m\u00e1li (S4407\/2020), sem s\u00e9rfr\u00f3\u00f0um m\u00f6nnum ber saman um, a\u00f0 \u00e1k\u00e6ruvaldi\u00f0 hafi ekki l\u00f6gs\u00f6gu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

MeToo \u2013 gr\u00fappan \u00e1 f\u00e9sb\u00f3k var upphaflega myndu\u00f0 til stu\u00f0nings m\u00e1lflutningi Ald\u00edsar \u00ed \u00feeim k\u00e6rum\u00e1lum, sem h\u00fan er frumkv\u00f6\u00f0ull a\u00f0. Vi\u00f0 r\u00e9ttarhald \u00ed rassstrokum\u00e1linu kom \u00e1 daginn, a\u00f0 k\u00e6randinn, Carmen Josefa, var a\u00f0 eigin s\u00f6gn talsma\u00f0ur gr\u00fappunnar.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Me\u00f0 \u00feessum d\u00f3mum voru frumkv\u00f6\u00f0ull \u00feessara k\u00e6rum\u00e1la og sj\u00e1lfur talsma\u00f0ur h\u00f3psins b\u00e1\u00f0ar d\u00e6mdar fyrir \u00f3sannindi um meint refsivert ath\u00e6fi mitt.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00dear me\u00f0 eru sj\u00e1lfskipa\u00f0ir forystumenn MeToo hreyfingarinnar \u00ed kringum Ald\u00edsi d\u00e6mdir fyrir si\u00f0laust og l\u00f6glaust ath\u00e6fi.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ni\u00f0ursta\u00f0a:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00dear me\u00f0 hefur hvort tveggja gerst: R\u00e9ttarkerfi\u00f0<\/strong> hefur v\u00edsa\u00f0 \u00f6llum s\u00f6gubur\u00f0inum fr\u00e1: \u00e1 \u00feeim forsendum, a\u00f0 ekki hafi veri\u00f0 um refsivert ath\u00e6fi a\u00f0 r\u00e6\u00f0a. Og d\u00f3mskerfi\u00f0<\/strong> hefur b\u00e6tt um betur me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 l\u00fdsa tv\u00e6r forystukonur MeToo \u2013 hreyfingarinnar berar a\u00f0 \u00e6rumei\u00f0andi \u00f3sannindum.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P\u00f3lit\u00edk?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00c9g gef yfirleitt l\u00edti\u00f0 fyrir sams\u00e6riskenningar, en \u00e9g legg \u00fea\u00f0 ekki \u00ed vana minn a\u00f0 neita sta\u00f0reyndum. \u00cd vitnalei\u00f0slum \u00ed rassstrokum\u00e1linu var k\u00e6randinn, Carmen Josefa J\u00f3hannsd\u00f3ttir \u2013 talsma\u00f0ur gr\u00fappunnar a\u00f0 eigin s\u00f6gn \u2013 spur\u00f0, hvers vegna h\u00fan hef\u00f0i ekki k\u00e6rt meint brot fyrr en m\u00f6rgum m\u00e1nu\u00f0um eftir\u00e1? Svari\u00f0 var: \u201cVinkona m\u00edn, forma\u00f0ur Kvennahreyfingar Samfylkingarinnar<\/strong>, hvatti mig til a\u00f0 k\u00e6ra.\u201d \u00deetta eru hennar eigin or\u00f0. \u00de\u00e1 skilja menn fyrr en skellur \u00ed t\u00f6nnum hatursor\u00f0r\u00e6\u00f0u Ingibjargar S\u00f3lr\u00fanar af \u00feessu tilefni.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hva\u00f0 stendur \u00fe\u00e1 eftir?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Svari\u00f0 er: Hatri\u00f0 og hefnigirndin.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

A\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed er var\u00f0ar me\u00f0fer\u00f0 sta\u00f0reynda og sannleiksgildi stendur ekki eftir steinn yfir steini (sj\u00e1 www.jbh.is<\/a> s\u00f6gubur\u00f0ur).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

En \u00feegar lj\u00fagvitni koma fram undir merkjum MeToo hreyfingarinnar hafa \u00feau unni\u00f0 m\u00e1lsta\u00f0 hennar \u00f3b\u00e6tanlegt tj\u00f3n me\u00f0 \u00feessum v\u00edtaver\u00f0u vinnubr\u00f6g\u00f0um. Enn er samt ekki of seint a\u00f0 b\u00e6ta fyrir \u00fea\u00f0 me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 bi\u00f0jast afs\u00f6kunar.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u00cd bla\u00f0avi\u00f0tali fyrir m\u00f6rgum \u00e1rum kva\u00f0st elsta d\u00f3ttir okkar Brynd\u00edsar, Ald\u00eds, ekki \u00feekkja \u00fe\u00e1 mynd, sem fj\u00f6lmi\u00f0lar hef\u00f0u dregi\u00f0 upp af f\u00f6\u00f0ur s\u00ednum og spur\u00f0i: M\u00e1 hann \u00fe\u00e1 hvergi nj\u00f3ta sannm\u00e6lis? \u00deetta var \u00e1ri\u00f0 1995, \u00feegar Ald\u00eds var 36 \u00e1ra g\u00f6mul. Sj\u00f6 \u00e1rum seinna haf\u00f0i gagnkv\u00e6m \u00e1st\u00fa\u00f0 og vi\u00f0ring sn\u00faist upp \u00ed hatur og hefndarhug. … Continue reading “S\u00d6GUBUR\u00d0UR I”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1,9],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3195","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-allar_greinar","category-greinar_og_vidtol"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/jbh.is\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3195","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/jbh.is\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/jbh.is\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jbh.is\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jbh.is\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=3195"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/jbh.is\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3195\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3210,"href":"https:\/\/jbh.is\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3195\/revisions\/3210"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/jbh.is\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=3195"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jbh.is\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=3195"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jbh.is\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=3195"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}